Interacting with the children 与孩子的交流

1、1. Listen and answer questions! 倾听并回答问题！孩子对世界充满好奇，他们永远都有十万个为什么。洋哥洋姐要学会倾听他们的问题，确认问烙疋艘烯题，并且友好地回答问题，帮助孩子建立信心，不断学习知识。Children will naturally come up with questions while learning something new. Take time to listen to their questions and try to formulate the best answer you can think of that directly answers their question. Sometimes you might have to ask if you understand their question correctly. You can find out by rephrasing it and saying, “Is that what you’re asking?” After you answer, you can ask, “Did that answer your question?”· If your host kid asks questions at home at times that aren’t good for you, be sure to explain to them that it’s not a good time and why. This also goes for any time your host kid talks to you. Children don’t always understand that sometimes when you’re in the middle of cooking a complicated dinner it’s not a good time to discuss what happened to them that day.· Be sure to say, “I really want to hear about that (or talk about that), but right now isn’t a good time. Can we talk during dinner (or at another specified time)?

3、3. Take the children’s emotions seriously! 关注孩子的情绪！孩子往往有强烈的情感，关注着往往被大人们忽视了的事情。所以，洋哥洋姐需要注意关注孩子的情绪，正确引导，帮助建立良好的情绪管控能力。 Children have very strong emotions, and sometimes they are about things that don’t appear important to adults. It’s important to not downplay how a child feels about a certain event or situation. Help children to make sense of their emotions in a helpful way. You can start by saying, “I understand this is upsetting to you. Let’s talk about why you’re upset.” You can then try to calm them down by talking about ways that they can cope with feeling upset, or explaining other points of view that they may not have thought of.

5、Last but not least, every child is different, and it’s impossible to know what ways of interaction will work best with your host kid. If the children doesn’t trust you at first, doesn’t listen to you at all, or if you feel like you cannot get through to them, don’t give up! It takes time, for the both of you, to adapt to a completely new person in the household, and everything will get clearer in time as you get to know each other and feel more at ease with the family. And remember, at Love Pair, we’re always here for you if you need some tips or guidance.